Category: philosophy/religion topics
This has been the most saddest month for me. It never crossed my mind how short life could be...
Early last month i lost my grandma. No one saw it coming. She seemed healthy. We had jus visited her for mother's day & she passes. I took it the hardest out of all the grandkids; didnt even know if i could handle it.
Now my dad is in a comma. Its been a lil over 2wks & nothin really changed. It shocked us all. We've been prayin & will keep prayin. We jus want him to get betta. It hurts me cause he played with my son before he left. But didnt say bye to us. And said see you later to my mom. Hes strong..he has to pull thru...
We all have one life so forget & forgive cause we never know when it will be our time. Love your family & let them know. And live your life with no regrets.
Amen. Whether we believe in beyond journey's end upon death, there is truth in these words. Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and one another. I'm very sorry for your loss, Bella. I can only hope you can keep your grandmother's memory strong, and that your grandfather will recover.
I don't agree with this. I think unconditional forgiveness is wrong and dangerous. Those who seek forgiveness should earn it by showing that they are sorry for what they've done.
Putting some religious perspective on this, one thing I don't agree with is the idea that if people confess their sins, God will forgive them. I don't believe in this concept, and to me it sends out a message that we can be as horrible as we want but so long as we confess to it before we die, God will forgive us and the harm we have caused to others won't matter.
*Hugs* to you Bella Love
I realize we have not really met
or talked here
Only having gone through similar situations
there is some understanding
...these are moments difficult and of
persoanl inner growth for you...
There are those of us that are here
as you are going through all of ths.
May God help your family through this.
Today my brother was contacted by a news reporter..they did a story to see if any1 can help financially or know if my dad could get transferred safely bak home..we're hopin ppl would be able to help..its hard to deal wit this; worried bout our dad, wantin him to get betta & come home. We jus gota wait & see whats gona happen..
Why do you need financial help? Are you having to buy some equipment?
The hospital wanted money before operating my dad. Within family we paid over eight gran. The hospital bill is bout twelve hundred. He cant stay at da hospital cause they want more money so their takin him home on tuesday. Their gettin a in home nurse to help. They still hav to pay for the nurse as well. And we want him to get medical help bak home. But we dont know if that will be possibe cause he has to breath thru a tube at time & we dont wana risk it. And i think they will hav to purchase supplies as well.
does anyone know who we can contact for help???
thanks.
United way. A great organization.
It is a good thing to love them when you have them, but when God decided to take them it is a blessing to let them go as well. If someone has done wrong in their life it is between them and God, or whatever they believe, but forgivenwss is easy to give special to the dead. Let all wrong a person has done to you go for it is better for you not them. If they are still in your life separate yourself from them so they can not cause you more pain, but forgive them it.
Update: We found out today that my dad was no longer at the hospital & was taken to his moms house...he will SUPPOSELY get the medical care there. He is no longer given oxygen & is breathin on his own. No movement on his right side still; they will have to be do massage theraphy to help the right side. He still remains the same. The doctor says in about a month & a half he should be good. We feel that he will not be taken cared for like they do at the hospital. His sis, who is takin care of him, seems to sound frustrated/aggraved. My mom is very worried all well as all the siblings. Still trying to figure out what we can do. For now we keep prayin & hope he jus awakes up. Its sad & messd up how all this is turnin into. Jus wish my dad would be bak home wit the fam...
Earlier my mom had calld my dads sis for his birthday...they didnt let her talk to him. One of my sis and bro were lookin forward to talkn to him, but they werent allowed to either. What a sad day it turnd out to be... We are stil tryin to work all this out and prayin for our dad...
UPDATE: Very sad & devasting news...my dad passed on Jan 3 at about 12;15 our time... They said cause of death was cerebal damage. His mom said he passed peacefully. I took the new real hard & still dealing with having to accept it. Thing is i can't yet accept it...i keep telling myself that he is still in vacation & that he will be home soon. I've been trying to stay strong for my son, but there are some days that i just have to cry. I've cried in front of my son & he has this look like he knows something is wrong so i just hug him because he doesn't understand.
My mom got a hold of a funeral home to help her bring his body back to TX. Its been almost 3mths & still no body. We understand its alot of back & forth communication. And the process is taking forever. My mom said its Mexico who is stalling. They have many rules & their own ways of doing things. We want to do an obptosy on my dads body. We highly feel that his family was not taking good care of him. My mom said she never saw them give him any meds while she visited, twice. We just want to know so we can have closure. My mom had planned on buring his body next to her mom but the cemetary is closed (no more burial there) so she will be cremating him.
He leaves his 9 kids & wife with just memories...many which were good times. Life isn't the same no more. Everytime i visit my fam just won't even be a nice visit. Because of him, we stuck together & made sure everything was ok. The one thing i keep playing in my mind over & over is the day he left; he played with my son, but i didnt get to hug him & tell him i love him. I miss him soooo much. I wished he hadn't left. I wished more could have been done to bring him back to TX so i could have seen him in person. I hate his family, we don't even consider them anything to us. If only they would have let him come home jus mayb he could be with us not 100% well but at least we would have our only dad. Now, every night just before i go to sleep i play, "Dance With My Father" & hope he will be in my drems.
R.I.P. my dad-we love & miss u <3
Gone, but not forgotten.
Sorry to hear about your grandmother and father, Bella. May they rest in peace.
Senior mentioned not agreeing with the concept of unconditional forgiveness. I believe in something similar...I think someone being family isn't a get out of jail free card if they let you know by their behavior they don't care how they treat you. It sound like your dad maybe didn't get adequate care from his family members? This is part of my struggle with organized religion: it seems, no matter what faith, to teach unfettered respect for parents in particular, and Mr Squid's fellow expats hate that so many people here get institutionalized care rather than living with family. I don't believe that family is always the ideal source for care and have personally known older adults who thrived in the company of other oldsters and languished living with family.
Again I'm sorry about the passing of your dad & the lack of care he got from his family. I hope the next life will be better for him.
Hi,
first of all, Bella, I'm so so sorry for your losses. This must be terrible, especially if you think it could have been prevented.
Concerning unconditional forgiveness: If you are holding a grudge, you are only holding one prisoner: yourself. You are tortured by the memory, while the person who did it to you might live happily. Forgiving releases you primarily, not them. And it is not that what they have done doesn't matter. It does. But it just takes out the sting of it and emotional healing can be done, preventing bitterness.
I don't agree with unconditional devotion to family members, and the whole concept of loving all and enjoy life and all that. Its hard to do that in a time where everybody is losing their jobs, getting their homes fort closed upon, and a sense of dread in our economic system.
We just live to keep on living, surviving and making use of what we have to hopefully make our lives a little better. It really is, in my opinion, the battle of the fittest.